A reader asked The Libertarian Homeschooler about her and her husband’s parenting style, and their son, known as The Young Statesman, (the younger boy goes by The Baby Anarchist) answered:
Nicholas,
Don’t be so sure. Libertarians can be unpredictable. Our family is run in an anarchist fashion (like in The Philosophy of Liberty).
My mom regularly asks me and my brother, ‘who owns you?’ I say, ‘me.’ So does my brother. We own ourselves.
We all–adults and kids–observe the two laws.
1) Do all that you have agreed to do.
2) Do not encroach on the person or property of another.
We all do what we have agreed to do and no one encroaches on the person or property of the others.
If we do not wish to participate in the family, that’s fine but you miss out on the benefits of the family. You can still live on the family property (I would live in the tree house (it has a roof) and I’d have to kill the bunnies in the back yard and I’d have to take the fruits and vegetables from the garden, my parents would help me but I’d be on my own) but you don’t get stuff like tv, internet, electricity, heat, and the comforts that come from being a member of the family. I would miss having a family, being able to be in my choir, I would miss piano, I would miss my brother. But I could be on my own and not have to obey their rules. I just wouldn’t get to have anything. So, given that choice, I would like to obey their rules.
The rules are the two laws. There are no other rules. I’m not forced to follow the rules. It’s my personal decision not to live in the tree house, but I also get protection from those family rules. The rules apply to anybody that comes on to the property. They apply to Mom and Dad. That means they can’t encroach upon me and they must do all that they have agreed to do. We all live by the same rules. Unlike our government which gets to do whatever it wants any time it wants even if it disobeys the Constitution or laws that they have made up. There isn’t a monopoly on force in our house. My parents don’t use force against me. I don’t use force against my brother and neither does he.
They give me all of the things I might want and a little bit extra. They wouldn’t give this to anyone else. They give me their property and their time. They don’t give their property or time to anyone else except my brother. In exchange for that I follow their rules. I would never do that for anyone else (except for the people who my parents have said I should listen to and obey). Nobody else is my mom or my dad. We trade. They give me their time and their property and I give them the right to the last say on important decisions.
We aren’t like every other family in the United States. We’re different. My parents don’t always order us around. They are allowed to take away the use of their property but they never take away my property unless I’ve broken one of the two rules (but that’s never happened).
If we have an agreement that I will do something and I don’t do that thing, they will take away something of theirs that I have been using like the internet connection or the electricity for my electronic devices. That’s not tyranny. That’s just an agreement. It’s all set out in the beginning and no one is coerced into the agreement. If I don’t like an agreement, I’ll see if I can make alterations to it. No one is bound by an agreement they don’t want to be bound by. Agreements can be revisited.
It’s basic economics. What we bring into the family is what we get out of it. If my brother is being loyal and kind to me, he can expect loyalty and kindness from me. It’s trade. If I do something for you, I can expect something back from you.
My parents really believe this stuff. So they live by it. That’s a good thing. Does it take a lot of thinking? Yes it does. I ask a lot of questions. I challenge them a lot. If one adult says something I don’t like I can go to the other adult and ask them to intercede on my behalf.
My mom [The Libertarian Homeschooler] is not a tyrant. My dad (Zeus) is not a tyrant either. They operate like anarchists. Like a free market. All of our exchanges are voluntary.
So thanks for reading this. If you have any more questions just ask away. I’m unschooled. I actually have all day.
A superb response from an eleven-year-old.
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